Adequacy
What a mind blowing implication. She “owned” what she felt to be her inadequacy. It wasn’t that I felt for her so much as I felt something disturbing deep in myself. It touched something fundamental in the power of drowning in this word.
Adequacy
It goes straight to the sense of one’s standing in the world, life, and in the universe. It is at the core of who I believe myself to be and who I am.
Adequacy seems to awaken a feeling of uncertainty, doubt and insecurity in the paradigm of self acceptance—what I may think I want myself to be and the doubting of certainty or clarity. Then there is the “other” who offers distorted reflection and the inherited-organic-neural character of self identification—which includes their feelings of acceptance, rejection and judgment of who they see and feel themselves to be.
This is both the individual and the “social” milieu of measure of one’s place and regard in the community and the world. It is the psychic flow between the “Us and Them” and the “Them and Me”. Its grip is incredibly important in the sense of one’s self identification. It is the manifestation of the Tribal social bond in the measure of Self.
It is “outside”, and frequently in direct conflict with, one’s individual or private sense of identity and individuality. It is also a different measure of the Ego’s sense of self.
I find this a most difficult subject to dig into in its essence because it is almost impossible for most of us to hold objectivity before our own individuality. When one says “I am inadequate”, or its opposite, the words imprison one in judgment from all sides—which is the measure of self worth—thus bringing to the senses a measurement rather than the true vision of the nature of the self one identifies with.
We instead should be looking into the nature, character, and meaning of the self in its objective identification in a true reflection.
So what is “objective reflection?”
I would say it is a rational observation of the nature of a self, its organic motive and neural manifestations.
This is of course an encyclopedic story of evolution of consciousness and self realization in the imprisonment of the ego.
Self realization being knowledge and self management of the forces of life in its experience and content of what we are in the core of our neural behavior. It is what is genetically given in the neural content and composition, driving its expression in living existence. I’ll pass on the unfounded dreaming.
All this is no easy concept to grasp without a broad, lengthy, and open minded study and acquisition of rational knowledge, experience, and insight in the management of the tools of self awareness in the forces of life. There are presently many who help guide others in this rational process of learning self guidance.
The largest obstacle for most is having to deal with “believing” as a foundation of knowing. It doesn’t work. It can’t work as a basis of knowing. One only need to look at something that was once “believed” compared to what is now “Known”. The actual relationship of the Sun and Earth for example. There are millions of concepts that fell before the enlightenment of knowledge right up to its explosion in the present.
This task of learning and applying the knowledge of self is ongoing. It is a continuum of revelation and the quest for knowledge. It’s outcome is an individuality that can be self aware, and able to guide its own ship into the horizons of self awareness, in evolution’s journey into consciousness while existing in the totality of life—both organically and in alignment with its inner intent.
To place oneself in judgment of being qualified should be carefully avoided in the face of those who would claim some kind of illusory awareness unfounded in fact.
Judgment sinks the ship of open sailing and freedom to explore what is yet to appear out of the unknown.
The self needs support, nourishment of acceptance, and tolerance of what is given at birth—who they are and learning to use their integrity in accepting their own limitations. The only thing someone is supposed to be is what they are.
There is nowhere to go but forward in time to discover the nature of becoming in what lay within one’s own skin.
When a child is born it is what it is—that includes what it contains in its neural inheritance. Historically, parents want their children to “learn” what they, as parents, don’t like in others or themselves. Parents teach, program, and condition their children to be a match to the concept in the parent’s mind—its traditional. What would a conscious parent do to help develop the strengths of the child’s neural character and provide sanctuary for its deficits? I would like to see parenting as a process of teaching a child how to see itself, instead of teaching them to strive to be an illusory ideal that can’t possibly meet reality.